The Mom, Wife, Dream Life

Every couple deserves a healthy, safe, and loving marriage. What better way to do that than to be fully committed by learning what our own and our spouses’ love language is?

What is a Love Language?

A love language is your way you like to feel the most loved by your significant other. The other part of a love language is learning what you like to do to help your partner feel loved. The same goes for your partner too. For example, one person may like to feel loved by receiving gifts from their significant other, but they like to give love with quality time.

Regardless of what each person feels the most love for or what they like to give in return makes a difference in each relationship. Every relationship has bumps, turns, mishaps, mistakes, challenges, trials, and shortcomings. But what they also have are blessings, miracles, growth, strength, courage, love, compassion, forgiveness, and desire. No matter what, there will be hardships in life, in every single relationship, and it all comes down to the people in the relationship and what they want to do and change to make the most out of the bond they are creating.

Why Are Love Languages So Important in Our Marriage?

Understanding Ethan’s love languages has made a drastic improvement in our marriage. Knowing how he feels the most loved by me allows me to make those changes, habits, and sacrifices in my life to be the best wife, spouse, companion, and partner I can be. He is special to me and means everything to me, so he deserves to feel that way in our marriage. He deserves to know how I feel about him, and the best way I can show that to him is by following his love languages.

When we took the love language test together, we both went into it with some idea of what ours would be. What we didn’t realize is that what we liked to give in return wasn’t the same as what we received. I know it’s obvious, but for some, it’s hard to wrap their minds around the fact that not everyone likes the same things. I might like receiving and giving words of affirmation, but that doesn’t mean my husband will like receiving them as much as spending quality time with me.

People get these mixed up and often think that just because it’s not the top favorite love language, it means they no longer have to do it. This is not true! All five main love languages are important, all are crucial and necessary in every healthy relationship. If we are not doing at least the basics of all five, then our relationships with others tend to decline and may result in miscommunication.

What Are the Five Love Languages?

Here are the five love languages in case you are not familiar with them:

Words of Affirmation: positive and encouraging statements used to express support, appreciation, and love to oneself or others.
Quality Time: receiving undivided, focused attention from their partner. Being present and creating meaningful, shared moments.
Physical Touch: focusing on physical affection to feel connected and cherished.
Gifts: the act of giving and receiving presents, seen as tangible symbols of love and care rather than their monetary value.
Acts of Service: individuals feel loved and cared for when their partner performs helpful, thoughtful tasks for them.

As you can see, they are pretty simplistic, but can always be heavily detailed if you dig deeper into what each love language can offer to you and your connections in life.

Are My Love Languages Set?

Sometimes we have to take the test again and review to see what our new results will be. Just like everything, it takes practice and patience. Things change, just as the world does and continues to do; our lives are always growing and progressing. Our hobbies change, our interests change, and our lives are uprooted and moved without notice. It’s no different with love languages; they change, progress, and evolve.

If you haven’t taken the love language test, I encourage you to do so. You should not pay for a simple test online like that. If you find one that pays, find a different one! There are multiple out there! If you get to the end of the test and it wants you to pay for more detailed descriptions, don’t click that! You can do your own research for each love language online or on Pinterest for free. I have a board on my Pinterest account about healthy relationship tips that has some ideas on what you can do for each love language.

Why Is Understanding So Important in a Relationship?

Understanding each other makes a huge difference in our relationship. I know it can make a difference in yours as well. Give it a try, let me know how it works out for you, or what you learned about yourself and your spouse!

“Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different.”